Finian and I got engaged in May this year. And after a crazy two-week holiday in Ireland, we planned out most of our wedding…well the basic details anyways. The theory behind all this planning ahead was to delegate all the things that needed to be delegated while we were in Ireland, make the decisions that needed to make as soon as possible, then kick back and enjoy. It’s probably not the most ideal theory…as it made for a very intense two weeks in Ireland visiting venues, calling photographers, bands, goldsmiths and getting our wedding registration while touring Ireland with my parents. When we arrived back home, we were both exhausted. But at least we had most of our wedding planned out! The last thing I wanted to check off the list before we took a break on the planning was the bridesmaid dresses.
I’ve been a bridesmaid countless times. The dress is a really sensitive issue. Depending on your bridal party, you could have every kind of body type known to man. It’s hard finding a dress that will make everyone look and feel good in it. And that’s one of the most important things for me as a bride: I want my bridesmaids to like what they wear. If they are comfortable, they’re happy. Which in turn will make me happy and that is going to make the day that much more enjoyable. A win win all around!
Most of August was spent looking for bridesmaid dresses. I set up a Facebook group, posted images of dresses that I found for them to vote on which made it easier to create feedback. But with every dress girls liked, by time we agreed on it, it went out of stock. Frustration set in and it dawned on me: why am I putting these girls in the same dress? I don’t really care about them all looking alike. I care more about them having fun and being confident and happy in the dress they want to be in. That’s when my ah-ha moment turned into a great opportunity to geek out.
I decide to make a bridesmaid care package. Included in the package would be a note to the girls explaining my decision, a list of guidelines, a small inspiration board from Martha Stewart Weddings, a fabric card, and a gift card with money to buy the dress. I had loads of fun making the cards, getting the fabrics, and putting it all together. It really helps you communicate to yourself what you want in the wedding… Even though we had so much already planned, I hadn’t really put all our ideas together. The care package served as a good exercise to sum up what we were visualizing in our heads. I probably went a bit overboard, but Finian and I decided to do e-invites to save more money for the day of the wedding. For me, this replaced not doing paper invites. Now I can kick back and enjoy!